In some season of your life, you’ve probably heard the
phrase, “Desperate times call for desperate measures.” Supposedly the phrase
dates back to early Greece where Hippocrates, one of the most famous worldly
healers in history, used it to describe methods of healing when traditional
routes had failed.
When I think of my faith journey, I think of the phrase
having a different meaning. It seems to me that during my most stressful or
disjointed periods, I tended to focus more on the extreme devotion to my faith.
Instead of making my faith a continual high-point of my life, I would wait
until I was at the end of my rope to seek God.
I don’t believe I’m unique in that regard. I believe that
many of us seek God when the times are at their worst. We’re way more open to
asking for help from God after we’ve exhausted all the normal avenues we know
and understand. God for many of us is the last resort. He’s the desperate
measure we’ve been avoiding rather than the first counselor we call on.
In the past two years, I’ve seen my relationship with God
morph into something entirely different than it was in my mid-to-late-20s. With
the help of my wife, and the encouragement of a new church family, I’ve begun
to think about God as a first resort rather than a last resort. I’ve begun to
thank God much more than ever before, because I’m asking more of God than ever
before. And I’m finding out that God is faithful to the person that seeks him
first, and he still performs miracles even today.
It’s funny how easy it is to minimize the importance of God
in your daily routine. Often with a simple statement like, “Oh that’s not a big
enough problem to pray about,” you’ve immediately taken the issue out of God’s
hands and put it in your own. Sometimes that works out fine. You solve daily
problems in your job, or your house, or your own life quite adeptly. In fact,
many people trust themselves so much in the day-to-day management of their own
lives that they rarely ask God for anything except, “The Big Stuff.”
The Big Stuff is all those problems we know for a fact are
completely outside our own control. We leave those items for sick friends and
family, natural disasters, or maybe your favorite sports team winning. But that’s
not really all true. Many more things are outside of our control, even if we’re
trying to control them. Many of us make multiple contingency plans because we
believe we can control the outcome of any situation. We try to control our
image on our social media accounts. We try to control our health, or our
fitness. In many ways we live under the mistaken illusion that we’re in control
of our lives.
Then something happens. A loss. A mistake. A tragedy. An
unexpected event or series of events shakes the foundations of that illusion of
control, and suddenly we’re looking for answers. Why did this happen? What can
I do to fix it? What if I don’t even actually know what went wrong? Why me?
Those questions can send us running into the hands of an
all-powerful and all-knowing God. Like the Prodigal Son, we return from our
prideful lives with our heads bowed in supplication looking for God to fix
whatever went wrong. It seems selfish doesn’t it? And in many cases the Devil
would convince you that you’re not worthy of such return to God, which is one
of his many lies. Make no mistake, God would rather you come running to him,
than never come to him at all.
But you’ll notice something as you develop in your
relationship with God beyond simply using him as a crisis manager. God becomes more
than that. Through the Holy Spirit and your covenant with Jesus Christ, God
becomes your trusted advisor, your constant companion, your encourager, and your
loving friend.
The idea that the creator of the entire universe actually
wants to be your friend is something that gets lost on many Christians
including my earlier self. In John 15 we get explicit messages from Jesus about
how to be a friend of God:
12 “This is my commandment,
that you love one another as I have loved you. 13 Greater love has no one than this, that someone
lay down his life for his friends. 14 You are my friends if you do what I command you.
15 No longer do I call
you servants,[a] for the servant does not know what his
master is doing; but I have called you friends, for all that I have heard from
my Father I have made known to you.
When we follow what God commands, we are his
friends. When we listen to what the Master is saying, and know what he is
doing, we are friends of God, not just servants. We are meant to love one
another with the same love that God has for all of us, and that means not just
those we’re close to but those that can drive us crazy at times.
I found peace in the crazy times by focusing
on God as a friend who holds me in the palm of his hand. It’s not easy and
there are times where I wander away and seem to get lost. But it’s much easier
to return when you remember that God is in control of everything, and you’re
not. When you can clear the mental hurdle that you must manage everything to
make it better, and instead put all your issues in God’s hands, you can then
truly see and witness the wonder of God’s ability to love, heal, and work
miracles.
Then, once you witness that miracle, share your testimony. Don’t
just accept the things God does for you and do nothing. Praise him and tell
others! Proclaim his greatness! It’s easy to ask and then receive, but forget
to give God the glory. Our true purpose on this earth is to glorify God. These
things he does for you aren’t just for you, they are for God to show his power
and glory throughout the earth.
Be sure to share every story, even if they seem small. As an
example, yesterday my wife and I prayed for a friend whose son was running a
104 degree fever, and it looked like he was also going to owe $7000 to fix his
AC right at the beginning of summer. We prayed that the fever would leave the
child and that God would provide for him a much lower cost to fix his AC, or
the money to come to him so that his debt wouldn’t be increased.
Today he came in and told me that his son’s fever left last night,
and that another repairman came out to look at the AC and fixed it for $180
instead of $7000. That’s an amazing testimony and I thanked God on the spot. It’s
just one case, but you begin to see them daily if you’re willing to ask God for
help in all things.
Try it yourself and watch your life and your faith
completely change.